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“When you want something, the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” http://www.supersoul.tv/
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When you don’t see the positive aspects of your life that is when you start going blind! 
When you seek mean things in life, you become mean.
When you seek ordinary things in life, you become ordinary.
Rumi quote: “What you seek, is seeking you”
Taking youthfulness as an example, you need to develop a youthful and vital mindset first. That will then attract the bodily energy, the love of life, the situations in which you feel alive, and that will all contribute to an aura of youthfulness and vitality around you. You think the thoughts first and then everything else follows. For instance:
I am young and full of life
I love life and life loves me
I am full of the joys of life
I am very much alive
I am grateful for the life I now have
Life is opening up for me
I have so much going for me
I am very happy now
Healthy Thoughts Bring Good health
“Perfect. Do you see how what you were seeking was seeking you? And that “a list of people came to your mind”, your heart feeds the mind. The heart thinks in intuition. So intuitively it knows who to see without all kinds of effort. So yes you will run into to obstacles, but you will be able to manage them because it is your hearts calling. We all have a heart calling. When you find it, affirm it, then you are it. And you become unstoppable. The heart can handle anything. Anything.”
“YES that is awesome.”
“That is kewl.”
“So Cool.”
As human beings, we want to be able to look at something (or someone) and be able to sum things up.
If they can see what is going on inside of us, they know the message to give us.
For example, if it is all in our head, then why would they need to search for the right words when we cancel our plans for the third time?
Sure, they want to fix it, to help us feel better, to change our outlook. Healthy people have a desire to be able to see what is wrong with us, so they can say, “oh-h-h, now I understand.”
They want to help. Few feel they can be of help until they know what is wrong.
Most illnesses aren’t completely invisible
Your illness may be invisible. No symptoms. None. But maybe not.
We have just become a society that looks the other way, rarely taking time to understand why a person hesitates before standing or who struggles to open the door at the store.
I notice many diseases now, as I have become more familiar with what “invisible symptoms” look like.
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- I see the way a woman who steps asks the cashier to open a jar of spaghetti sauce, so she can go home and make dinner for her family.
- I see a child struggling to control himself and understand it could be the “H” (hyper) in ADHD.
- I see a man pause and fight for balance before stepping off a curb and I suspect he is concentrating on that simple step perhaps because of a stroke or a healing hip, or a recent back surgery.
They are not invisible. Even their pain or physical muscle weakness is not invisible. And yet we call the diseases an “invisible illness.”
While the words “chronic illness” means long-term, the term “invisible illness” is more apt to describe the overlapping relationship between us and another person. And most of that overlap of us and them may not include our illness, a big part of our reality, and thus, identity.
In the graphic image below, if you live with a disease that significantly impacts your average day, then you and I would be the teal color. The illness is red, and the friend is green. See what a small area the average friend may see of your life? They see the tiny bit of you when the illness isn’t at its worst. And they see an even smaller part of you and the illness when it flaring up.
We fight to have fun, we fight to recover afterwards, we fight to be a parent and then we fight to raise the children, we fight to get up and we fight to go to sleep… we fight to matter — to be something other than a person who is ill.
We feel like we need most people to know about our illness because it really is part of who we are.
If they don’t know about the fight, they don’t really know who we are — even though we wish it was different.
And this is why invisible illness is spoken of.
Many have a chronic illness.
But those of us who are talking about having an invisible illness wish for people to understand us — the real us — not just the shiny, smiling-on-the-outside-I’m-fin
Invisible illness is all about the relationship.
It is about how we are perceived. It is about how we are acknowledged, understood, explained, heard, interpreted, and rationalized.
It is about our hope that we can have the courage to become transparent enough to reveal the ill us. And then, have the real us validated — to be loved anyway. It is human instinct to look for acceptance.
We aren’t looking to be excused or exempt from the typical life.
We don’t want to be pitied or pardoned.
We want someone to say, “I see YOU… and I will do my best to be the me you need.”
And that is what every person desires.
… Those who live with invisible illnesses.
… Those who live with visible illnesses.
… And those who live without any illnesses.
Because you don’t know what the person beside you is fighting for.
So rather than waiting for someone to be what you need, start by being what someone else needs.
Why do we say we have an “invisible illness”? Is it because we feel invisible to people?
Years ago the term “invisible illness” was rarely used. Before social media the opportunity to talk about your disease was relegated to a local support group and perhaps a caring friend or two. Illness was something you spoke to your doctor about… and that was all.
Asking, “Who am I with this illness?”
If you have a chronic condition you may have shared one of the many illness memes on social media that attempt to explain what it is like to live with constant pain. The conversations that occur in blog comments or other platforms naturally take on an “us” versus “them” mentality.
Unfortunately, this mentality, alongside some of the memes that are mean and sarcastic, can cause an even greater divide between us and the very people we wish to help understand our daily lives.
Why is there so much emphasis — and desire — to talk about what people think about our illness?
Regardless of what one’s illness may be, when one is speaking of their “invisible illness” odds are it is related to a relationship.
Our chronic illness is something we go to the doctor and discuss. Our chronic illness is what we treat with the medications and supplements. But our invisible illness is what affects how we deal with the world around us in regard to our body and its limitations.
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- We talk about how our relationships affect our illness. And we talk about how our illness affects our relationships.
- We talk about marriage or dating relationships and how communication (or lack of) can make our illness worse. We talk about how support from a caring partner can help us cope so much better.
- We talk about bosses and our co-workers and if they even know about our illness. We question if should or shouldn’t work, how much to tell a potential employer, and how to explain sick days to a supervisor.
- We share our stories about our young kids, our teenage kids, our adult kids, our troubled kids. Some of us wonder, “Should I even have kids?” And we wonder how much our illness is messing up our kids.
- We talk about our parents and if they believe we really are ill. We talk about caring for our mom or our dad, because a day will come when we are expected to be their caregiver. And how will we do this when we can barely care for ourselves?
- We talk about those occasional good days and how our friends now believe we are all healed and will have many more good days.
What does this have to do with our actual disease?
Regardless of your illness, it likely has many names. Chronic, degenerative, disabling, terminal, auto-immune, neurological, benign… and invisible. Severe Depression was my invisible illness back in 2006 others over looked?
When we say we have a “chronic illness,” we are specifying the length of time this illness is likely going to stick around.
But when we say we have an “invisible illness” we are describing a condition that is hidden to those who are around us. Which shouldn’t really matter. It shouldn’t really matter whether people can see our inflammation, stubborn confused cells, digestive issues, chemical imbalances, infections, blood sugar, or high blood pressure.
Because it’s still there even if it can’t be seen.
But for some reason — it does matter.
People want to help, but they don’t know how if they don’t understand what our battle is!!!!
Sometimes people with some kinds of invisible disabilities, such as chronic pain or some kind of sleep disorder, or severe depression are often accused of faking or imagining their disabilities. These symptoms can occur due to chronic illness, chronic pain, injury, birth disorders, etc. and are not always obvious to the onlooker. https://www.disabled-world.
When People Starting to believe they realize they’re not just lucky they are blessed as well.
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